Lenten Reflection on Bitterness - Matthew 6:9-16
Let us pray:
Our Father in heaven, hallowed be your name. Your kingdom come. Your will be done, on earth as it is in
heaven. Give us this day our daily
bread. And forgive us our debts, as we
also have forgiven our debtors. And do
not bring us to the time of trial, but rescue us from the evil one.
For if you forgive others their trespasses, your
heavenly Father will also forgive you; but if you do not forgive others,
neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.
To be honest with
you, forgiveness was not something that I spent a lot of time thinking about or
even being concerned about prior to entering the ministry. I grew up in the church, and of course I knew
that we needed Jesus to have our sins forgiven, but that was about it. Maybe I just wasn’t listening in church, or
maybe it wasn’t there, but I don’t remember—I just don’t recall any thought or
discussion about the importance in our faith journey of forgiving others.
It wasn’t until I
had to take a hard look at the Lord’s Prayer in a devotional reading that it
really hit me how central forgiveness is to our faith. We pray “forgive us our debts/trespasses/sins
(depending on your translation or preference), as we forgive our debtors/those
who trespass/sin against us.” I had
prayed it for years without thinking too much about it, but this devotional
really challenged me to think about it—though I can’t remember exactly the
direction of the devotion. I just
remember that it pointed out to me the strong implication of what exactly I was
praying, to understand what exactly I was saying and asking of God.
How many of us
have ever stopped to really consider what we are praying in that prayer rather
than simply repeating the words from memory?
The issue of forgiveness is so central to this prayer that Jesus even
takes time after teaching the prayer to emphasize only the aspect of the prayer
concerning forgiving others: “For if you forgive others…your heavenly Father
will also forgive you,” and here is the part that stopped me cold with the
reality of what I was praying, “but if you do not forgive others, neither will
your Father forgive your trespasses.” We
are asking God to treat us, consider us, look upon us in the same way we look
upon those who have wronged us. If I do
not forgive others, I am asking God to not forgive me. If I treat others with resentment, I am
asking God to resent me. If I am bitter
toward those who have wronged me, I am asking God to treat me with
bitterness. If I am hateful toward those
who have hurt me, I am asking God to be hateful toward me. To make matters worse, Jesus doesn’t offer
any kind of stipulation that if it is just a minor thing like accidently
hitting the bumper of our car in the parking lot we are to forgive but if they
kill our spouse or child, we can hold on to that bitterness to the end. No, he simply says forgive and be forgiven,
don’t forgive, don’t expect forgiveness.
Such hard words
to hear, but they are the words, the teachings of Jesus. If we call Him “Lord,” then they are words we
have to hear and heed.
What does it mean
to forgive?
It does not mean
that we are immediately reconciled to the person who has wronged us—it does not
mean that an abused wife goes right back in the house and continue living with
the unrepentant man that hurt her (that’s reconciliation and that is something
completely different than forgiveness).
It does not mean
that we forget what has happened to us—God gave us a memory to keep us from
falling into the same traps over and over again.
It does not mean
that we wait for the person to say “I’m sorry”—we follow Christ who said from
the cross, “Father, forgive them, for they know not what they do,” and we
remember the words of Paul, “But God proves his love for us in that while we
still were sinners Christ died for us.”
So what is forgiveness?
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